I imagine your hubby doesn’t want to get his nails done with you. And nor should he. But is he your friend?
Is it even possible for two lovers to be friends also?
I say it is, because The Lad and I are best friends, and also have a great married relationship. You can have the same type of relationship with your hubby. Here’s a little more about how to be a friend and lover.
P.S. Happy Valentine’s Day <3
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Best Friends
It’s good to be friends with your spouse or partner. The thesaurus calls a friend other words, too, like:
Confidant
Compatriot
Ally
Sidekick
And my favorite:
Intimate
When you think of your best girl friend, you look forward to the next time you get to see her. Maybe you’ll spend time shopping or getting your nails done.
Your hubby doesn’t like manicures, I imagine. But when two friends spend time together, they both like the activity. You wouldn’t drag your girlfriend out to a concert if she hated the band.
The same way you wouldn’t force your hubby to go to the spa (except for occasionally, we do that - and they secretly end up liking it). When you want to enjoy a friendship with your spouse, you have to spend time together doing things you both love.
You can still call it a date because that’s what it is. And you’re also investing in your friendship at the same time.
Psychology tells us that we all need time for ourselves before we can be a good spouse. But time together is also essential. In fact, couples who are friends get more satisfaction out of life, according to this study.
Lovers
You can’t expect to be in friends mode all the time. Maybe you and hubby have lost your chemistry, so you spend tons of time together and you’ve got the above part down. But the lovers aspect of the relationship seems to have gone missing, and you want the sweet nothings, not just the video games and hanging out part.
It’s okay. That happens to a lot of people, which is why there are tons of posts about how to reignite the spark.
Remember together what it was like when you first started dating. Go the extra mile to be romantic or sexy. Sometimes we forget, with all of life’s stress and family obligations that we used to be really attracted to our partner.
New babies are great, but they add an extra element to your relationship that you have to manage.
This won’t happen immediately, but you can find the new, fresh feeling in your relationship again.
How To Be A Best Friend and Lover
The tough part of this is that there is no model to follow. You don’t sleep with your best girlfriend, so you’re forging your own path here. But that’s what a wild lass does.
We’re sure you can figure out what works for you. How do you think your relationship looks when you’re best friends and cultivate a good marriage?
Together
So what do you enjoy doing together with your hubby? To be a friend and lover, you’ve got to find something. If there isn’t anything at all, discover an activity together.
And how can you reignite the spark?
Leave a comment to let us know how you’re going to build a friend and love relationship with your spouse. And if you liked this, check out the other blog posts at A Wild Lass.
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